Hey y’all —
We spend so much time looking at other people’s bodies.
On our phones. On apps. On porn sites.
So much of our sexuality is filtered through someone else’s camera, someone else’s fantasy, someone else’s standards.
But what happens when you become the subject of your own erotic gaze?
What happens when you stop trying to be hot for someone else — and start letting yourself be hot for you?
That’s what this coaching exercise is all about.
Not performance. Not perfection.
Just raw, unfiltered, you — reflected back through your own lens.
Why This Practice Matters:
Creating your own erotic content (even if no one else ever sees it) is a radical act of self-ownership.
It helps you:
See yourself with new eyes
Normalize your turn-on instead of hiding it
Challenge old shame stories around your body, desire, or visibility
Play with your sexuality on your terms — not someone else’s
This is especially powerful if you’ve struggled with body image, sexual trauma, or the idea that pleasure only exists when someone else is watching.
This time, you’re watching. With compassion. With curiosity. With power.
Try This: Your Erotic Content Creation Challenge
Pick one format. Keep it private. Make it sacred.
Option 1: Audio Fantasy
Record a voice memo of a fantasy you want to explore
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